The basic problem of M-M concerns being able to begin again in the middle of life: how to get it right, how to be happy when the past looks richer than the future.
Many men at the height of their melancholia fight their crisis by making wild changes to their lives regardless of others’ feelings and so hurt many people. And a considerable number of events or, indeed, scandals involving famous men or husbands in your own circle in the thirty-eight to forty-five age group can often be directly attributed (though not necessarily excused by) the wild actions brought on by M-M. One well-known London musician at this age consciously decided to shatter the existing structure of his life and went on to world fame with a new young wife with whom he started a second family.
But while some men see their solution in packing their bags, others, with what might be considered a more negative or pessimistic reaction, collapse in despondency to a depressed state of helplessness with a listless outlook on life and few interests apart from television and/or the bottle, their sex life not worth mentioning. Whatever the reaction, even though there may not be a vocal cry for help, somewhere along the line they are asking for help and understanding. It could be at home, in the office or in a doctor’s consulting rooms.
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